Episode 89: Crossing The Line
Amber opens the episode in full awkward honesty, and somehow it works perfectly for what we are talking about.
This episode is about desire, but not the surface level kind.
We are talking about the space desire is born from, the space where your needs get met, and how sometimes that space looks like… nothing.
Less input. Less talking. Less touching. Less trying.
For you and for your horse. We go into how “doing less” can feel like abandonment or rejection if your nervous system is wired for connection to look like constant engagement.
That shows up when your horse walks away, when a person needs space, or when you feel guilty for needing quiet.
We talk about attachment patterns, anxious energy, and how “need need need” can unintentionally create pressure that makes the other side want to back up. We also talk about the other side of it, where we shrink down so much that we disappear, and the horse or the relationship starts poking at you because it is trying to call you back into your own power.
There’s a whole thread around overstimulation that starts with a microphone issue and turns into a real conversation about how one tiny thing can hijack attention, in humans and horses.
We connect that to the freeze response, compliance, and how often we don’t ask for what we need in the moment.
We also talk about how the story we are carrying changes what our horse can do with us. If you believe you are imposing, your ask lands like guilt. If you believe you are allowed to want what you want, your ask lands like clarity.
We end by tying it into Manifesting Magic, and the idea that under every complaint is a desire, and learning to go underneath the complaint is one of the biggest ways to shift your life, your relationships, and what your animal can co create with you.
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Questions to Go Deeper
• Where do I confuse “more input” with “more love”?
• What does “space” feel like in my body? Relief, panic, guilt, freedom, something else?
• When my horse walks away, what story do I tell myself immediately?
• Where in my life do I shrink down so I can be liked, so I can be easy, so I do not rock the boat?
• Where in my life do I get “softer” when what is actually needed is clarity?
• If I could ask for what I need in real time, what would I say first, in one sentence? • Where am I worried about being perceived as needy, intense, or too much, and how is that blocking connection?
• Is my horse showing me overstimulation, or are they calling me into more presence and personal power?
• What is one desire underneath a complaint I have right now (with my horse or with a person)?
• What would it look like to speak that desire without blaming anyone for it?
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Time Stamps
00:00:05 Intro, awkward opener, and why we are talking about desire
00:00:26 Desire, needs being met, and when “doing less” is actually more 00:01:29 Attachment patterns, anxious energy, and space feeling like rejection 00:04:07 The microphone moment, overstimulation, and how tiny things hijack focus
00:06:11 Freeze, not asking for what you need, and how this shows up with horses
00:08:05 External expression vs internalization, and why some horses “hold it” then explode
00:09:19 Interrupting in real time, people pleasing, and learning to name what you need
00:11:43 Fear of compliance, intensity of focus, and “take your eyes off me” 00:14:06 How intention impacts animals, distance communication, and energetic pressure
00:16:33 Softness vs shrinking, and when a horse is calling up more from you 00:19:11 Women, conditioning, diminishing, and the belief that we cannot have what we want
00:22:12 The edge, overstimulation vs disappearing in the relationship 00:25:09 Humans make stories, and learning to disassemble them
00:26:20 Desire clarity, why you want what you want, and how beliefs affect the ask
00:35:23 Under every complaint is a desire, and using complaints for good 00:37:01 Manifesting Magic invite, animals as guides, and choosing one co creator 00:38:27 Rate, review, links, and membership includes Manifesting Magic
