Episode 86: Transitions

Transitions come in all shapes and sizes. From sending a child to college, to shifting into new roles with our horses, to navigating relationships, Amber and Shayleigh unpack the beauty and the challenge of change.

This episode dives into the preparation, language, and mindset that can help us move forward instead of clinging to the past. They also weave in practical tools like breathwork, meditation, and grounding exercises to support both humans and animals during times of change.

Time-Stamped Show Notes

[00:05:28] Shayleigh validates the rollercoaster of feelings during transition—tired, hungry, happy, sad—it’s all real and all welcome.

[00:06:01] Amber shares about dropping her son at college, and how preparing her kids and her horses to thrive “without her” has been a lifelong theme.

[00:09:12] Preparing training horses for high-pressure barns—how to equip them to stay balanced and advocate for themselves even when the environment shifts.

[00:10:15] Shayleigh reframes transition language: you’re not going back, you’re going forward with new awareness.

[00:12:06] Amber talks about stepping back into horse training, not as who she was, but as who she is now.

[00:13:18] The power of conscious language—choosing words like “I choose” instead of “I want.”

[00:15:08] Breath and neutrality as anchors in transition. Amber shares her month-long struggle with recalibration and the tools that helped her.

[00:16:02] Shayleigh opens up about channeling, animal sensitivity, and “light being” animals born to support Earth.

[00:18:29] How language shapes mindset—examples from Conscious Language: The Logos of Now.

[00:20:52] Getting specific about what you want—why vague desires like “I want to be happy” aren’t enough.

[00:22:13] Parking “luck,” resistance, and how attachment changes outcomes.

[00:25:35] Do we really want control over everything, or is contrast and struggle part of what makes life meaningful?

[00:27:47] Relationship transitions—routine vs reintegration when partners return home.

[00:30:01] Animals and transitions: how they experience separation and reunion.

[00:33:38] Tools for animals: using color, visuals, and energetic cords to support connection during absence.

[00:35:23] Amber’s top tip: breathe into your back body, advocate for 5 minutes, and choose your response.

[00:35:47] Shayleigh’s grounding tool: the 5-4-3-2-1 presence practice, and a reminder that meditating helps your animals too.

[00:37:16] Closing reflections—don’t freak out, just breathe and move forward with presence.

Reflective Questions What transitions are you currently moving through, and how are you preparing yourself (and your animals) for them?

Do you tend to frame change as “going back” or “moving forward”?

How might shifting your language change your perspective?

What practices help you stay grounded and present when life “slaps you across the face”? How might your animals be showing you their own experience of transitions, separation, or reunion?

If you got specific about what “better” or “happy” looks like for you, what details would you write down?

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